Let the love in.
Me and my sister Tamar at her birth
Just last week, on Valentine's day, my sister gave birth to her 3rd child, a beautiful little girl named Ella. She had a planned home birth with a midwife and we had planned that I would be there, along with her husband and my colleague Abby to be her support team. I arrived at 7:30 in the morning and she gave birth at 9:40. During those 2 hours her support team went to work. I massaged her and made sure she was drinking, the midwife was in charge of checking the fetal heart beat, Abby brought the hot water and made sure the midwife had everything she needed, my parents took her other kids to school and her husband played music and prayed for a smooth and healthy arrival of the new baby and strength for his wife. It was so moving to me to see my sister in her labor and her support team holding her through it. As they say, "it takes a village". The support hasn't ended- the community is organizing itself to arrange 2 weeks of meals for my sister and her family. This support is carrying her through challenging (and of course exciting!) times of birth and post partum.
And as always, I thought of you. I thought about how important support is- technically and emotionally. I thought about the many parents I have worked with who struggle with or resist help because they don't want to burden anyone or because they feel uncomfortable to ask. But, the amazing thing is- being at that birth was a gift for ME. Just like volunteering in my first Son-Rise Program in 1997 was a gift for me- one that clearly changed my life forever. I don't mean this as a cliche- it is the truth. By asking for help- you are giving that person an opportunity to do something meaningful. Doing something meaningful is what we are all ultimately searching for. You can even say that it is your obligation to invite others into a meaningful opportunity- don't hog it all for yourself! Support in all forms- being in the room with your special child, being with your other kids, grocery shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning, babysitting so you can have a special date night- these are all the things that support you and your family on this journey with your special child.
Here are some action steps you can take to invite more support into your life:
1. Ask yourself- is there any area in my life that I am resisting help/support? Write down your answer.
2. Ask yourself- is there any way I can be more proactive about getting and receiving support (you know there are)? Write down your answer.
3.Action Step. Review your answers from the above questions and pick one action you can do to receive more support. Be creative- this might even be asking a friend who is a massage therapist to give you a treatment once a month!
I am here to support you. That is the mission of my articles, blogs, seminars and the heart of my work with my clients. So, I am thrilled to announce that REGISTRATION IS OFFICIALLY OPEN for my FREE teleseminar, titled:
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Tuesday, February 28th 12pmEST/5pm GMT
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