Tali Berman's Blog
Just last week I had the honor of attending the bar mitzvah (a Jewish "coming of age" ritual for boys when they turn 13) for a boy named Shmuel, who I had worked with for many years.
I had a consultation with a Mom the other day who wanted to help her 13 year old son develop more spontaneous language (this might be a goal you have for your child as well).
Great Goal. The question is- how the heck do you achieve that goal?
There is one thing I see parents and professionals do all the time that I want to help you avoid (doing this creates a road block in your child's communication development and can cause unnecessary frustration for parent and child).
Today falls between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur on the Jewish calendar. This marks the beginning of the Jewish New year and is a time to connect to what is sacred in our lives. For me, it is a time to take a break from our endless ‘doing’ and connect to ‘being’. When I say ‘being’, I mean who we are right now-not who we want to become.
I just finished watching a video of one of one of my private clients, Patty, playing with her son, Eric. What I saw was a devoted mother trying to help her child stay on task with a variety of activities: puzzles, matching cards and reading books.
She was working hard and it looked like she was "trying to pull teeth."
This is a picture of my 3 kids (from left: Yonatan, Chen and Anava) on a recent family trip to my friend's ceramic studio.
As a mother of 3, I know that the summer can be full of great times, an essential break from the routine AND little to zero personal time.
The days are long and hot and with little time for self- care- how do you maintain your sanity?
Have you ever heard of the term "trying to close the gap"?
This is a term I hear often and it refers to closing the gap between a special child and his/her peers.
While I certainly support the idea of helping every child to be able to fully integrate and succeed with other children his/her age, I think the goal of "closing the gap" poses a particular problem.
With this goal in mind, and with the best intentions in the world, parents may try to minimize the differences between their child and other children.
I am honored to be an official blogger now on Jenny McCarthy's/ Generation Rescue's website, amomgh other top autism experts and parents.
I want to make sure that all members of my autism community (yes, that means YOU!) get to benefit from all the tools,strategies and inspiring stories I will be sharing on Generation Rescue's blog.
So... I will be posting the links here each time a new blog has been posted.
Here is post #1 (where I share how I got into the world of autism and what my core values are).
This is my 6 year old son, Yonatan, washing the car windows at the local gas station- what pride and joy in his face.
This comes from the delight in doing a task on his own- with no adult hovering/guiding/instructing or more importantly, taking over.
I was recently reviewing videos for one of my private clients, Gal and his mother Eden.
I noticed something very interesting. There were specific times when Gal was communicating in 1 word sentences with a more robotic tone and no eye contact- and there were times when the same child was communicating with fuller sentences, more facial expression and eye contact.
What was the difference between the times of fuller communication and the ones with more limited communication?